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What is the Dark Femme?

July 30, 2024 Raechelle Embrey

If you have heard about "The Dark Femme" before and were repelled or intrigued- this episode is for you!

There is so much talk about embodying the divine femme BUT many forget that to get there, you must make peace and heal your dark femme.

BUT, many have no idea what the dark femme is.  Many fear this terminology and think it is something within us that is bad and deemed unacceptable.

Your dark femme is a force of energy that awaits you to see her, heal her, express her, and own her.

In this episode, I share what the dark femme energy is, how she shows up in your life & business & how you can set her free.

She is not to feared. She is you. She is sacred and holds deep wisdom if you are willing to explore her.

I have a potent 3-part masterclass beginning Thursday- "Liberate," series devoted to resurrecting the dark femme.

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I'll share the wisdom of the Dark Femme guides and help you reconnect with your inner magic, step into your personal power and truly connect with your divine femme.

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>You desire to feel connected to goddess energy.
>Self-doubt and fear hold you back from claiming your power.
>You grapple with the "good girl”, people-pleasing conditioning that keeps you expressing all of who you are
>You want to feel safe to express yourself within your business and your relationships.
>You are curious if the shadow of the dark femme shows up in your life & business

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Welcome to the untamed soul podcast. I am your host, Rachelle Embry, the founder of radiant vibes. I am a spiritual mentor and intuitive energetic alchemist for you, your animals and your soulful business. This is a podcast devoted to soul activation and embodied entrepreneurship. It is an exploration of inspirational humans who are leading the path to a new earth. Along the way, I will share intuitive insight and practical wisdom to inspire infinite potential in every area of your life. I am so excited to have you on this journey, so together, we can become untamed. Hello, everybody. This is a solo episode. That I actually recorded as a live on Instagram and decided that I was going to record it. For the podcast. So just in case, you're confused as you're listening, because I'll share some things that are familiar more with Instagram, but this is a podcast episode that I really wanted to share. With those of you who were not on Instagram. Which many of you are not. And. This is a topic I have become so passionate about over the last two years, the dark fam. And if you've been following my journey, you know, that black moon Lilith. Has been a big part of healing for me through karma. That I've come here to clear in this lifetime. She has been a profound. Healer. Oh my gosh. I don't even know what, what the words that I would say to call her, but discovering her impact through my astrological chart. And the healing that she is here to give me has been profound. Not only has it shifted the way that I have showed up in my personal relationships. It has shifted the way I've showed up in my business. It's the way that I lead myself through life and leadership, doesn't only have to do with entrepreneurship or a business as truly the way that the feminine leads herself through life. It's the way that we communicate the way that we think, the way that we feel, the way that we hide ourselves, the way that we set ourselves free. Right. And. This episode is going to diffuse a lot of the mystery behind what the dark femme actually is. Because I feel that people are either intrigued when they hear this word, the dark femme. Or they're repelled. So I'm going to dive in to all of the dark fam because my upcoming masterclass series called liberate. Is going to be beginning on Thursday. This was going to be the first. And only time that I do this series my life. If you were in the temple community as an annual member, you get to get access to this course for free. And you have lifetime access. If you are not in the temple, it is$222. And it's truly transformational. It's going to change your life as a feminine leader, as a feminine. Being it really is going to help you through so many things, such as liberating yourself to feel free to express all of you within your life, your relationships, your business. It's going to liberate you to feel safe and your body. It's going to show you why you hide, why you fear being rejected, being scrutinized, being judged, being shamed. Why you do this to yourself? And in this episode for the doc femme, I go into all of this around the dark fan, but we're going to go even deeper because we're going to look at how black men. Lilith per Stephanie and hackathon who have been on this journey with me over the last three and a half years have not only made an impact on me. Through understanding the way that they were playing out in Maya sacred Astro codes, but you're going to learn how this plays out for you. And I've also added a special bonus for all who joined, which I will reveal. When we began on Thursday, trust me. It is amazing. And again, this is the only time I will ever teach the series live after this. You can purchase the replay for$444, but right now you can catch the live. With the bonuses and obviously get to ask me your questions and have my eyes on your energy and your chart. And we will go deep together right now. It's a three-part series, but I'm feeling that there's going to be another, another module added in here. So. Dive into this episode, feel free to share your favorite takeaways. And if you want to register for liberate, the link is in this podcast episode, in the show notes. I love you. And I cannot wait to see you. I feel like it's become such a popular topic that so many people are starting to talk about, but there are all these missing pieces that need to like be immersed. So there's not really, uh, this congruency of like the true embodied femme. And so there's a lot of, uh, superficiality. There's a lot of like, I still feel like a lot of wounded feminine energy coming into this topic and I want to kind of diffuse some of this and I labeled this video invoking the dark femme because I feel like the dark femme is truly one of the biggest portals to you becoming your divine femme. And I know this because this has been my path, like literally it's been my path and it is also the path of which all of my clients go through, you know, there is this kind of diving into the shadow and diving into the unconscious of the dark femme energy, which then liberates us into being in our true embodiment of the divine femme, which is. You know, really what we all want to do, right? We all want to feel this true unity with our divine fem. And so I use this language a lot. Many people are using it. And I'm going to share with you, like what this means to me, like what this, uh, dark femme energy, the divine femme energy What this really truly means to me as somebody who has been walking this path for her life, her entire life, literally, is this has been this massive transformation. And I don't really feel like we ever land in our true divine femme. I think we get there. We're like her, we breathe her, we're with her, but it is always. an evolution, right? As we evolve, so does our own Divine Femme. And so to get to continue to evolve with where our Divine Femme wants to take us, then we have to actually be able to be willing to go into sort of the darkness, right? Um, And into the underworld. And some of you might know this as traditionally called like a dark night of the soul or diving into the shadow, diving into the unconscious. And these are all the places that we have to go to in order to really emerge in our divine femme who is always evolving. Feminine energy is always an evolution. It is never stagnant like feminine energy. That is stagnant. Stagnant is actually what creates resentment, what creates anger, and those things can be very valuable and very beautiful, um, you know, sort of portals into like what we're actually hiding within ourselves that are yearning to be expressed, that we're not accessing. But that also like when we're in stagnation and we're not allowing ourselves to truly evolve and grow as a feminine body as a feminine being, and this is also just so you know like I don't believe that this is only in women like men. Also have the feminine energetics as well. And so we all have this duality within us. So what is the dark femme first of all? Okay. So I feel like to get to the divine femme, we have to like make peace with our soft girl, like the soft girl era of us, the part of us that really stayed quiet. That was the good girl that did all the right things that, um, as a client was saying to me the other day, I realized like, I always wanted to make all my teachers happy in school. You know, she wanted to be the perfect student. You know, this could be like looking like you're the most, um, like, uh, from the entrepreneurial standpoint, not really expressing your truth, not fearing what people are going to. Say about you, what they're going to think about you. Um, this could be not wanting to really push your clients to, to grow and evolve. So it's not saying the truths that you know, you need to say just to kind of, uh, sink back and be the nice girl and be the good girl, be the soft girl. And, um, in our relationships, what I find this plays out is really a lot of like that good girl energy. I don't want to express my Needs. I don't want to express what I'm really feeling. I don't want to, uh, infuse the boundaries that I know. I don't wanna speak the boundaries that I know I need to set. Um, when I'm direct, I'm bitchy. Um, you know, when I am really passionate, when I'm in my big emotions, then I'm too much. And, and people don't like that. So what this. woman in this particular good girl, soft girl phase might do is she might actually suck back all of this and internalize all of this energy within her. And then ultimately over time, that just is a breeding ground for resentment and anger. Now we get to use anger always as a tool, like we get to make peace with anger and we get to really use this as a way to Um, open up the portals, open up gateways to healing because anger always beneath the anger is pain. Usually, you know, beneath the pain is the, the, the, maybe the sadness, it might be where we've abandoned ourselves, where other people have abandoned us. Right. And so there's all these reasons why we might not want to express what we know that we deeply want to express in our relationships and in our business. But I find usually this comes down to a couple of things. One fear of rejection to fear of judgment. Um, Three, a lot of shame, you know, around feeling the way that you do, you know, a lot of women feel a lot of shame in that vulnerability about the way that they feel inside of them and men to truthfully, um, this could also be, um, fear of being scrutinized, of being ostracized. Ostracized. Uh, you could hear, put that into the category of like the witch wound, which we hear that, you know, shared a lot. You know, the witch one truly is a real thing. It's like where we feel are expressing who we really are. We fear expressing our spiritual gifts. You know, we fear, uh, expressing our connection with someone. With spirit, with nature, with all of the things that we, we love, um, that bring us into that connection with energy, because while that is like too weird or what are people going to think? And literally this goes back to past lives, many past lives where the women in our lineage have been like burned at the stake. They've been hung. They've been cast aside for being seers, for being Um, you know, even having strong opinions, strong insights, right? And so our ancestors have carried this forward. And it literally is, it's like in our DNA, right? We are part of them and they are part of us. And so we're in this beautiful time where we have all this awareness to all of this information. And, you know, It's, it's, it's so powerful because collectively we are shifting it. We're in a very, very pivotal time where we are shifting this collectively. And so you are going to see more and more people rise as, uh, spiritual leaders. You know, As they've like really pushed aside and not pushed aside, but they've worked through these barriers around this expression around who they are and all of the parts that embody them. And then bringing this back into more of the expression is like, you know, that fear of judgment, that, that fear of, uh, rejection. Fear of abandonment. Like if I speak this, my partner will leave me. Oh my God. It feels, feels like literally it's in your body. It is a very visceral feeling that is very, very real. Okay. Um, I work with women on this all of the time and it's either they come to me around their relationships and then we end up working through that and how they can create and cultivate healthier expression. In a way that feels very like I call it sort of that like feminine elegance, you know, um, but sometimes, you know, we have to heal that part of us that we know needs to be direct that we know that we have to let certain people go in our world, you know, that aren't even in our like one to one partnerships, right? Like this could be, you know, Like sometimes with the, the, the dark femme and the soft femme is like the soft girl might not want to let people go, might have a hard time letting people go. Even though inside her intuition is screaming at her saying, this person is not good for you. This person does not like totally respect you. This person doesn't give value. You, she doesn't see you. She doesn't see you and your power. Right. This is all part of, of this like soft. Energy, the dark femme energy. And then as we move through these, this is how we kind of make peace. Not kind of, we do, we make peace with that divine femme. And so I'm sharing a lot of this because I have an upcoming series that is actually going to be on starting Friday called liberate, which is going to be incorporating my three dark femme guides that have played such a pivotal role for in my world and in my coming to peace with. All of me, really like the parts of me that I truly shut down for the longest time, the way that I feared expressing myself. Um, I am a person that has a very powerful expression and my business. I am here to. Really, uh, speak some direct truths. You know, I'm not, I'm not here to, to have this small little soft voice. That's just like all going to be soothing everybody. Like I am an activator for change in people's lives. And so with that comes this feeling of like, Oh, when I see. Speak that sometimes that can be triggering to other people. I'm sure if you're listening, you've, you've felt this in some way in your life. If I, if I, um, really rise into my power, then I'm going to trigger other people, maybe leave people behind. Um, maybe people won't respect me because they say that, you know, um. That, um, so what, what ends up happening is we end up shutting our heart down. We shut that feminine energy inside of us down. So all of these parts of us that we know that we need to say the boundaries that we know we need to set the people we know we need to let go, the, uh, Truths that we know we need to share, you know, um, the, the things that we know we need to do to either rise into higher consciousness, or if you're an entrepreneur, like really take the next level into your business, into who you are, that sacred soul expression, right? Are all These are all what I refer to as the dark femme, okay? They're the parts of us that other people think are too much, that they judge us for, that they ostracize us for, that they, um, you know, might project onto us. And we, we know it. Like, women, we know this. We are so intuitive. We are very intuitive beings. So, like, we know when this is happening. And this is again, the part of us that some of us who have not completely embrace the dark femme within us might actually mistrust our intuition. We might not trust what we're sensing about another person, right? We might say, no, that that's not it because maybe it's a very sneaky energy where sometimes they're super nice, but then there's a subtle energy. Where they're really not seeing you, where they really don't value or respect you. Right. Um, and this, this happens. And what happens is this is like what I call like the wounded sisterhood. It starts to create comparison and separation within the feminine, within the collective, and this is, this is. Really honestly, the wounded feminine. And to me, this, this type of energy, when we feel this with other women, and when we are participating in it, even if we're not the one doing it, to me, it's no different than what we've all known as codependency or chasing a man for love, right? We we're so afraid of, of letting go or putting a boundary in place, whether that's an actual like verbal boundary or an energetic boundary. And that we, we continue to participate in that pattern, right? And, and ultimately over time, it diminishes parts of us if we choose to continue participating in it. And then we silence our truth. We silence who we are, and we start not even knowing who we are. If we continue to play with that, we will literally lose ourselves in other people's energy because we're not even knowing the truth of who we are because we have silenced. Stuff down all those things so deep in our body that we're completely unfamiliar with it. And then what happens is when we stuff all that down in the body, guess what? This is like stuck energy. It's got to go somewhere. It's going to come out and your resentment, you know, towards other people. And it, women listening to this, if you, if you have been in a place of resentment, I know you have, because as women, we all have at one point or another where, you know, we're feeling like our partners aren't respecting us where we're feeling like. Nobody is appreciating us where we're feeling that nobody respects our boundaries, uh, that we don't feel that we're loved, you know, there's a lot of reasons why this might happen. And the resentment is a killer of our feminine energy. When we hold resentment, nothing can penetrate our heart. Nothing. It won't matter what your partner does. It won't matter how your business explodes. I've seen women have businesses completely explode, like just so profitable, but because they have so much resentment on their heart, they can't even receive it. And it just goes away. You know, we can't receive, we can't receive the abundance, the joy, the pleasure, the love, you know, money. And this comes into a big play and money as energy, as a result of abundance, love, pleasure, joy, play, sacred expression, money doesn't come to us just because money comes to us. Money comes to us because we are in our, our energies of like who we truly are at the core of our body, at the core of our soul, this is what I call sacred expression. And so. You know, when we're denying these parts of us and then that resentment builds up, we're not actually allowing things to permeate our body. And then ultimately, all of the stuck resentment is going to go two ways. It's going to go to anger. Which if your anger doesn't get a chance to be expressed, you know, and anger is part of dark femme, we have to understand that anger is a part. It happens and we have to make peace with anger and use it as a powerful catalyst of like, what is this anger? What is this resentment trying to tell me? Where have I been neglecting my own needs? Where have I not been appreciating myself? Where do I, am I denying my own boundaries? And I want to talk about energetic boundaries here in a minute, because this is really huge. Um, and so, and then it can also lead us to setting boundaries in a very armored way. So we're like, don't do this. I don't, I can't tolerate this. I'm setting a boundary, you know, that's fueled by anger. It's not actually. Fueled by your feminine, sacred expression. However, I do believe we have to start somewhere since sometimes it's going to come off angry, right? It's going to come off in that way. And so, you know, we have to ask ourselves first, where are we doing this to ourselves? First, always, this is the shadow, right? This is the unconscious. This is the dark femme. These are the parts of us that we Are not seeing, you know, these are the parts of us that create illusion in our life. Because when we do these things to ourself, when we abandon our truth, when we abandon our desires, what we truly want in this life, we don't own them. We don't claim them. And we just let them be. Or I mean, there's so many women that come into my world that don't even know what is desire. They don't even know. You know, they think it's a need or a want, and it's not, or they have no recollection of like, what is desire. Right. And so when we abandon these parts of us and, and, and we neglect our own needs, we neglect our wants, we're so fearful of experiencing. Expressing them or saying them because of we fear that rejection or that abandonment, or we've been told that's ridiculous or you're too much. Why do you want that? Uh, you know, um, women shouldn't want that or, or whatever. You know, I, I, I was in a very toxic relationship where I was told a numerous one of these things at one point in my life, you know, and the only way to move through this is truly we have to start giving ourselves this. We have to start honoring. What it is that we need, we want, we have to start honoring what we, where we need to set boundaries. And this includes in ourselves too. And so sometimes this comes down to what I call energetic boundaries and energetic boundaries are like when we start to set the boundary and then we abandon them, right? We put it out there. I don't want this to happen. This doesn't feel good to me. I can't allow this to happen in my world anymore. And then all of a sudden, guess what? That person starts doing it. We let it happen. We collapse our boundaries because we didn't hold it up energetically as the first place, which means within our system, within our body. And then next thing, you know, they're coming right in and they're just stepping all over us once again. And so if you are a woman who has not Bin self led don't fear. Like, don't shame yourself. It's okay. If any of these things are happening in your world, this happened in my world for a very long time. Right. Um, and it took a long time to heal through and it was a process and it was an evolution. And then, you know, as we evolve, so do our circumstances, right? So there's always another layer to peel back in this, in the way that we truly honor ourselves. So, you know, when we, um, Are not honoring what we need inside of us. We co create experiences again, and again, and again, that are going to reflect back to us what it is within us that we are neglecting, that we're collapsing, where we're not honoring. So if you are inviting somebody into your world and you see all the sudden, and I say inviting, cause it is an invitation that they're not respecting, uh, the You know, say it's something like, I don't appreciate being spoke to like that. We're going to keep this really simple. And then they continue to speak to you like that, but then you don't follow through and there's nothing, there's no energetic boundary behind that. Or in your mind, you're like thinking about this all of the time. You're like, okay, okay. Like I keep expressing this and it keeps happening. And now I'm afraid that if I go and enforce this, that that person is going to. You know, like completely abandoned me and completely leave me. Right. Or whatever, that's the energy, right? That's the energetic boundary that I'm talking about. It happens inside of us. So we have to get really clear with that first so that we can start to honor what we need to do. And so when we first start doing this, it takes a process. Like we have to do this again and again, until we stop co creating with that in our external reality. So hopefully this is making sense because it's a lot to unpack, but it Like it's a very liberating feeling when we start to realize like there's ways that we can speak and share this and that people aren't going to reject us. They aren't going to abandon us. Abandon us. The people that are for you are for you, and they won't. They will hear you and they will honestly respect what you have to say. If they're truly your people, like they're going to like, they're not going to want, they're going to be so thankful, honestly, because when as a feminine being, we like stuff away all of our energy and we stuff away all of our feelings, the masculine, they can't find us. They can't even reach us. There's like, they have no direction. Right. And this also happens within us because we carry masculine energy and we carry feminine energy within us. And like I said, men have the same. Feminine energies and masculine energies. And I work with a lot of men who, when they actually start to activate their voice, right, it's like everything gets to shift in our external reality, you know, and so they're, they're really like, unfortunately there is a point. process. And sometimes you will go through some letting go and you know, when you have to let go, because if somebody is continuously not respecting or valuing you or seeing you and your power, right, then that's not, you can't, that's just not liberating. You can't keep going in that energy because it's going to deplete you. And again, if you haven't caught this, if you guys are all hopping on, there's a whole part that I went into this about what happens when we, Silence our inner femme, that dark femme part of us, then the dark femme, just as a, as a reminder for all of you guys hopping on is the dark femme. We all have it, men and women. It is within all of us. We all have masculine and feminine energetics within our bodies. And so the dark femme are the parts of us that we deny that we keep tucked away inside that gets stored up a stagnant energy. That the parts of us that we fear are too much the parts of us that deny what we really want in life the parts of us that deny our big desires right there the it's the anger it's the big emotions it's like the big parts of us right it's the big emotions when we feel like we need to cry like when we need to go you know we're having an emotional trigger right femme oh my god i'm triggered like what what the fuck is wrong with me right and that's this is like this That we have to like dismantle this and really allow us to make peace with all of these big emotions because even in the triggers, you know, there's deep wisdom. So when we learn to make peace with our dark femme energies within us, you know, we actually learn very, we cultivate beautiful ways of communicating. One, we get to know ourselves internally so, so well that then communication becomes easier because we can articulate it in a way that we're not coming at and projecting. Our anger, our resentment, which is all a result of like the feminine energies that get stuffed away when we don't feel like we're being seen. And this carries over into business. So I'm speaking about it in relationship right now, but if it's happening in relationships, It guaranteed it's happening in your business and you're playing in energies like this. And the way that this might play out in business is like seeking validation, being overly attached to your client's results, you know, um, not saying the things that you know, that you need to say to your clients to get the transformations that they need, right. Um, being afraid to really push people to like that next level. And. There's a lot of ways that this can play out. Um, I actually can create a lot of separation within money, within the way that you perceive money, within the way that you receive, uh, the, your fear of expression, you know, not showing up and saying the things that you need to say that, you know, that you need to say of not even allowing yourself to access those beliefs and those values, the things that really set you apart from anybody else in your industry. You know, you are so much more than like a label. We have this label right here, but then underneath of that label. Each of us has a uniqueness and so much sacred expression. That's there that sets us apart from anybody. And so when we're carrying around all this wounded feminine energy, we are silencing our truth. We're silencing who we are. And this is men and women. Y'all it's like everybody, this doesn't just, it's not just women. And so I think that the, that in the industry and in a lot of spiritual context, the, the feminine energies are thrown around a lot. We forget that we all have them. And we speak about the divine femme so, so much that we're not actually recognizing that to get to the divine femme, to get to that part of us, that is that divinity that is, you know, we wake up out of bed and we feel in our truth. It doesn't mean that we don't ever walk through a day and not have a trigger. It doesn't mean that we never cultivate or create another, like I say, co create current co create, um, you know, other experiences that are going to illuminate Where we're not honoring ourselves, because I truly believe if we are not honoring what we need, we're not honoring our emotions. We're not honoring what we know to be true to us. And we're not doing the things that we know that we need to do to create that truth, to create that desire. Like we are going to continue to have what I call initiations, which are, you know, these opportunities that come to us that can feel quite painful. You know, it's like, why do I keep Creating this type of relationship again, and again, and again, and again, why does this particular pattern keep coming up in, in my business again, and again, and again, it's because you're not taking that initiation. You're not rising up to be initiated to like where your soul is saying, I want, I want you to go here. I want you to have this depth of love. I want you to have this. Depth and power in your business. I want you to show up in this type of leadership. You know, I want you to be seen in this way, you know, and we always have to do it for ourselves first. We have to be able to see ourselves in that way first. Right. And so, you know, if we're, if we don't, and we don't take on those initiations and rise and become in, and, and, and really truly be what initiated, right, then we're going to keep attracting those same experiences, just in a different flavor. A different book, a different look, it'll keep coming your way until you officially say I'm done. I'm done co creating with this energy. It's no longer, it's, it's just not even allowed in my world anymore. And so, you know, but that takes a lot of looking at the shadows within ourselves and at the unconscious, looking at the dark femme, you know, the parts of us that we don't want to really see, you know, these are parts I've been told so many times, you know, unfortunately, and like, I love the men in my world, but like, I've been told. Many times, like that's just like, that's too much to ask. Why do you need me to say I love you that way? Why do you need me to be that way? And this is all in my past. Right. But again, this was because I was not honoring the way that I deeply wanted to be loved. And so I was settling and I was staying in relationships or friendships. This has happened in my connections with many friendships where, you know, because if, Like I made a recent post last week. It's like, until you see yourself in your power, nobody else will either, you know? So I would continuously bring in friendships that, you know, projected onto me. So every time I would rise into my power, like, I'd be like, yes, I'm going, I've got this. I'm so clear. I'm so ready. I'm so ready to like blast off and share my message. And then inevitably there would be something that would happen. It would just be like out of the blue, a certain situation or scenario that would just knock me off my feet and just. Trigger the fuck out of me. And then I would silence. I would go off social media. I would just like go dark. I would serve my clients and do my thing, but it would consume me. It would consume my entire inner world because I was so afraid of that abandonment, right? That, and then I would go into like this chasing almost energy of like, why, why are they doing this to me? Why, why, why? And, and what I really needed to do and what I've learned over the years is like really ultimately it's always around. What is the situation coming to share with me right now? What is the magic, the, the wisdom that I need to extract from this? I hate the word lesson, but if you, if you, you know, associate or like, you know, what is the, what is the word that I'm looking for? If that word means something to you, lesson, I don't like it because I just, I prefer to look at all of our experiences. What is the wisdom that I'm here to extract from this particular experience? Right? And then you take that wisdom and then you shift your energy. And you're like, okay, I know what I needed to do. It sounds so easy though, but this is where, like, when we rise into our own divinity and we, and true leadership, spiritual leadership is, is really about taking those actions and making those moves that, you know, you need to make to elevate your life, to really bring in that higher consciousness, to bring in that soul desire, that soul purpose that, you know, you're here to have, whether that's. In love relationships, business, money, wealth, career, whatever that it is. You know, and so when we deny those parts of us, we're actually denying that part of our soul's evolution truly. And it's hard, it's hard to say, I know I need to let this person go. It's hard to say, Oh my gosh, I mean, cause I work with a lot of entrepreneurs. I will tell you the biggest wounding that people have is coming up on social media and speaking like this, this is vulnerable. This is so vulnerable to get on here. And share and, and if you didn't catch the, the beginning of this, I'm actually recording a podcast at the same time as I'm, I'm sharing this. It's like the podcast is easy because I don't have to be seen. Right. You know, so that's, but at first that was really hard. It was so vulnerable for me. And now that's easier and easier for me, but like to show up and, and put your content out there and speak Speak your truth and be willing to share the things about you that are unique and different is so vulnerable. And this is a big part of the work that I do with so many entrepreneurs that come into my world or, you know, there's a lot of entrepreneurs that come in that are hiding behind the spiritual lens. They don't want to put out there that they're a spiritual, a spiritual person. So they're running a business on a mask and they feel depleted and they feel drained and they feel like just, just like sick. They, they just don't even want to devote to their business. Right. And so there's the, this parts of us that we're like, deny, it's like, it's once you know, these things about yourself, you can't deny the truth that you know, you know, and if you do, it's just going to continue to suffocate your body. It'll move into your body, eventually creating illness. Sickness, body aches and pains, disease for women. I see this all the time in hormone issues and like it's truth. I've been through it myself. I've experienced it. You know, these, the things that we experience in our body, these illnesses and, and like mystery pains and all these things that really, because we are denying parts of ourselves. And so as we deny it, how in the heck is anybody else ever going to accept it? You know, and so if we don't, and that takes you taking aligned action after that, it's like, I know I need to do this thing. I know I need to, to, to set this boundary with my partner. I know I need to tell them that when, when he does this, it does not feel good. And there's a way to do it. You don't need to be like all dogmatic and like, blah, blah, blah. And like, yell at them. Right. There's like emotional elegance with this. Really, right. Like we can actually show up and say, you know, when that happened, I felt really bad for some reason. And I, I'm not sure why, but it just didn't feel good to me. And then that invites a conversation and anybody that is healthy in your world would be curious. Well, what was that feeling? What like, I want to know more, you know, and that's how all of this gets to be like more healthy conversation. The problem is, is that we often still co create in dynamics that are not inviting healthy expression that are not actually in a reciprocal, uh, way. And so sometimes that requires a letting go, whether that's letting go of parts of your business, it could be letting go of clients that you, and it's like, you know, it could be. You know, in your relationships, it can, there can be a letting go, but I often find that doesn't necessarily need to happen if we're willing to, you know, accept these parts of us and, and then be able to speak. So much of this is around sacred expression. So I leave you with this and just to share, I have liberate coming up this Weekend. It's actually a Friday. No, it starts Thursday, Friday and Saturday. And at the start of this, I talked about black moon, Lilith and Persephone and Hecate, and they were three core guides that really worked with me. And if you know their stories, like. The stories behind Black Moon Lilith and Persephone. I had no idea the stories when, when they really woke up in, in me, like when I felt their energy rising within me. Um, I do know their stories now, and there is the dark side of them where they did disobey, where they did choose the darkness. And each of these three guides have been pivotal for me. And the way that I have started to use them is, With my clients is using them through where they're playing out in their astrological charts and how it is personally impacting them. Um, so for me, Black Moon Lilith is in the sign of cancer. So for those of you that know nothing about astrology, don't worry. You don't need to know anything about astrology. You just need to hear the energy of this. So you heard me talking about the energy of women coming into my world and constantly like, you know, dimming my light in the face of adversity. That is a placement in my chart. That is a dynamic that energetically speaks through me. And if it's in your chart, it's your cosmic DNA. It's a part of you that you are here to clear that you're here to recode. And so Black Moon Lilith shows us where we, where we fear rejection, where we fear abandonment, where we fear expressing our truth, uh, where we fear being scrutinized. You know, it's deep, deep wounding. And this happened in the feminine in my life. And the time that I was born with my mother, who was the same way. And so I have since a young child always felt like I was a leader. Black moon Lilith is where we get to see where's our power and our strength in leadership, you know, through our sacred astral codes. So for me, by when Lilith and cancer is like, she's a cosmic body there. She wants to lead. She wants to go out. She wants to nurture. Fiercely nurture her community. If you've been in my world, most of my clients, they come into my world. They don't leave because I fiercely nurture, you know, like, I'm like, you're with me. You're going to be empowered. You're going to grow with me. I'm always growing. We're going to go, let's go. Let's rock and roll. Let's do this together. Right. And so that is a component of like how I am, but. In the sign of cancer, which is a sign of the mother. Cancer is the feminine. It's the mother. It's the, it's all of the feminine energetics around us. You know, she brings in experiences that also reject her, abandon her, judge her. And so I created a lot of co created with a lot of experiences with other women where out of nowhere, I mean, I would be really accelerating in my career and then boom, you know, it's just like the door would close as if I was like hung at the stake. It would be that dramatic. And I would just be left shocked because it would be beautiful women that I would have been. Deep relationships with it would open my heart and trust again and again and again. And this would continue to play out. And the message here was really until I led in the face of adversity, these experiences would continue to come through me. So the magic in this, the wisdom I had to extract, which was hard, which was to go out there and lead and show up and speak what I know I need to share, continue to push forward. And that like, I have a lot of drive, a lot of ambition, and that does intimidate people. I, I, and that's just the way that it is. And that's not about me. But what I do know is it intimidates the people who are not integrated in themselves. If a, if a woman is integrated in herself and she's confident in who she is, no matter where she is, regardless of status, looks, body, anything, she's not going to be intimidated by that. She's going to love that. She's going to celebrate that, you know? And. And so I had to learn to really lead in the face of adversity, no matter what was happening outside of me. Okay. So that is one way that she played out for me. And there's, there's so many deep layers. I know so many of you, if you're listening to this, you're already going to resonate with that story because every time I work with somebody in this, there's always somebody around some feminine wounding that comes up with that sisterhood collectively. And Persephone is just a beautiful gift because what she does is she shows us how to walk into the underworld because she literally spends six months out of the year in the underworld and then comes up and Hecate walks her through that, sharing her magic, sharing her wisdom. And that is exactly what Hecate does. Hecate did for me was she really gave me the strength to Persephone. Let me back up. Gave me the strength to continue going into sort of the darkness, right into the dark femme and, and then rising each time with more awareness so that I could ignite my light brighter so that I could be brighter and who I am so that I could really claim the things that I really wanted in this lifetime and then go after them. And also give me the courage and bravery to release it. Energetically, what is not in alignment? Anything that makes me shrink or dim my light, right? And that includes my own thoughts and feelings in ways it's not always externally. A lot of this is internal work, which is what the Persephone codes in your chart shows you. She also shows us How to trust our intuition. She shows us where our intuition comes from, how to like cultivate a deep trust in that. What we know is true to trust in our experiences. So we don't gaslight ourselves. So we don't reject that part of what we know to be true. And then Hecate really, to me, like. So there is the story of Hecate, but what she's done for me is she has shown me how to reconnect back with magic and ritual and healthy, beautiful ways that make me feel alive. Like make me feel really connected to nature and my animals. Um, for me, that's how she plays out in my chart, but this is going to play out for everybody in so many different ways. Like. Hecate is like the earth medicine to me. I feel like she's like the frequency that holds our body here in our astrological charts that actually connects us into the earth. It says, Ooh, you do this, the earth holds you more. And this is how you manifest. This is how you create. She's a really beautiful medicine here. So these three guides have been pivotal for me and I have the library it's 222 y'all. It's like. 222 for a life changing course. It's a three part series for now, but knowing me, I'm sure I'm going to add in another part to this because I can never not just like I start getting the diet downloads and more comes through. And I'm also doing a bonus astrological session for the group where I will share personally how this is. How you could be experiencing this, because the one thing that I don't like is for people to come into courses like this and then try to piece it all together. and make sense of it on their own. Like, I think you'll be able to extract a lot of wisdom in that way, but it's so helpful when you get somebody that actually is an intuitive astrologer that can tune into your specific energy and then your chart to share also their perspective and their wisdom of how this is playing out. Because I think it's, it allows you to see what you can't see. And again, this is always going into the shadow. It's going into the limiters of like what we can't see ourselves. So, it's really beautiful. I'm going to be doing a soul activation in this as well, because we're going to be doing a lot of desire work in this too, which is going to be phenomenal. Like it's like my jam. I love doing this with my clients. So we're going to tap into that and do a soul activation, which is my signature energy healing frequency attunement. That we will tap in and bring those frequencies of those desires into your body and clear these woundings. You know, the, the, the, the woundings that we're afraid to acknowledge and see, we're going to clear this from the body because remember the body holds all of it. And eventually the body is going to store it and it's going to manifest in something, whether it's anger or, you know, um, pain in the body in some way. So. It's called liberate for a reason, because this is your liberation. So I invite you there. It's 222. I'm really excited about this. It's going to be so much fun. And I just love you guys so much. Thanks for being here. Thanks for sticking with me through all this dark femme energy. This is my jam. Hey, untamed listeners, I am so appreciative that you took time out of your day to spend with me. I hope you enjoyed this podcast as much as I did, and I would love your support for this podcast. I would be so appreciative of a positive review. This helps promote the podcast. and push up the algorithm. So more people can find me as a special thanks. 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